I want young women to take from my story that you shouldn’t forgive all the time. You can give people a chance, but afterwards, if you see that there is no change, that there is nothing the alcoholic can do with themselves, then you just need to leave.  Don’t be patient because I can see my relatives suffering a lot with this, but they’re not leaving, probably because they’re afraid. But you shouldn’t be afraid.

I saw the word violence in that handbook and I immediately remembered this incident in my life.  I understood how it was pressuring me mentally and I saw the pictures of that. The memory came out so brightly, but I felt that it was quite easy to speak about them, to describe them and to draw them.

Photo credit: Images provided by Footage and by the storyteller.

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‘S’ created this story as a participant in the Girl-talk-Girl program ( by Footage ( Girl-talk-Girl connects young women worldwide, using mobile digital storytelling to spark dialogue and change around the gender-based violence present in their lives. Footage is a NGO with a mission to raise voices to elevate lives through creative research, media arts, and the science of storytelling.