My father ruined my life.

Back in 2021, I had reached out to my father. He never reached out to me at all I had to be the first one to reach out to him, he had cheated on multiple women. He ruined this women’s lease, convinced her to break it and now he had left her with nothing. He never paid for the house, obviously the women he got with did. He neglected me ever since I was born, he always ignored the calls I would make to hear his voice when I was 6-9 of age. I’m now 16 years old, turning 17 this July. We had talked recently this year of 2026 and he’s single now, he wanted me to come stay with him and wasn’t okay with my moms’ rules of her telling me to be careful because how he is mentally. He’s abusive, neglectful, a narcissist and a very bipolar person. I wish I could have an actual bond with my father, we would hangout after I get out of school or hang out without my mom knowing which I broke a rule. He was telling me on how frustrated he was because my mom wouldn’t let him see me, mind you, he never cared to see me when I was little so he was putting the blame on my mom. He told me how if I came to live with him he would eventually pay for my things, my phone bill, buy me clothes and teach me high standards. He had also told me that if he had taught me how to make money that he did not want the credits going towards my mom. He had slowly taught me to against my mom and I fell for his trap without knowing it. I fell for his words later on 3 weeks ago, I had ran to stay away with him, my mom was upset of course. I feel really really upset and honestly I thought me and my dad had an actual bond. He brought me back to the area where it’s close to home later that night the same day I ran to stay with him so my mom knew I was safe. He wasn’t mad, he told me specifically in his own words. “I wouldn’t be mad to bring you back home, at least I caught you”. He basically meant (mentally I caught you from falling (leaving your moms). He had bought me and him front row ASAP ROCKY tickets on June 23rd. Every time me and him would argue or get into conflict he would threaten those concert tickets and post them on his Facebook trying to sell them. I was super excited for that concert, I made a poster for it and everything. I told my friends. Anyways, I came back home, my mom was ferrous and hurt. I understood why she was and I never saw her that hurt in my life before and I betrayed my own mother. I had gotten grounded that day because of all the sh*t talking I had did towards my step father and I honestly regret it because he’s been there for me than my own father did. I honestly hate who I am, who I was when I said any of that. My stepfather also wanted my father to pay my phone line cause of what happened. I lost my parents trust, I lost all the privileges I had and honestly I wasn’t the only one talking bad upon him it was also my dad. He made me turn against all them and I honestly am so mad. I had asked my father to pay it, this was when we were still talking and he said “I would but you have to come stay with me”. I was so mad. He doesn’t want fair share, the only reason why he wants me on his side so he can be a real parent now but before he wasn’t even there. I am completely heartbroken. It hurts me alot, he talked to me in ways that were manipulative and switched words around and made everything one sided, he said his own father abused him when he never did. He makes these sad sob stories up just so his viewers on Facebook feel bad about him. The least he could’ve done was if he was going to buy me concert tickets, he would’ve gaven them to me not throw it away. He had bought Don Toliver and ASAP Rocky. It hurts me, but now I have to restart my whole life. I have to work and honestly I screwed up and I take responsibility for what I’ve done but he doesn’t. His name is D on Facebook. Honestly, from what I’ve learned is to keep to myself there’s only so much I can do.